We do a HORRIBLE job of consoling people who are grieving and hurting. It doesn’t really matter what the loss is about – we suck at consoling.
When a loved one passes away how many people say, “I’m sorry for your loss”?
Why? Didja kill him?
Or consider how we treat couples who have lost a child…. God did not “take the baby because He wanted him in heaven.” That is not only stupid and hurtful – it is bad theology.
The next time you have an opportunity to talk to someone suffering through a loss, think about what you say and the significance of your words.
Think before you speak – if you even speak at all.
Remember, it’s not about making yourself feel better in the situation – it’s about bringing comfort and compassion to the one hurting.